article that appeared in abridged version in the journal 'Information' weekly Valle Olona-Category of Education: 'When art becomes educate'.
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Dear Dr., I have an 8 year old boy and I want him to do sports.
But I am in doubt because with all the commitments it has already during the year in this way, I'd go to him to add another.
I want to give me some advice.
Dear lady, rather than advice, as long as you are leaving, I think it appropriate to order.
First it would be appropriate to change the subject of the sentence: Not I would, I am in doubt, I'd add him .... But my son wants to do sports?
My Son about the reasons, my son is willing to add another commitment to their daily tasks?
We parents, sometimes, thinking that our children are small and that, to a certain age, or almost totally dependent on us, we forget that possess a head and thinking that the interlocutors are also very intelligent! We assume that we have to decide everything and always respect their good, because we are adults and know what is best for them.
And if on the one hand, this is true, on the other we must never commit the mistake of treating our children as puppets of our projects. As parents, we do not even notice of it, so we are motivated by our desire to do something good for them.
Unfortunately, as' doing away their biggest asset: the possibility of starting to grow, with our help, and not left to themselves, to make their first decisions, in a sense independent.
If not we dialogue with them on these 'small' but great things of everyday life, as we expect that we will be able to do so at the most important and profound issues of life? Who knows maybe
large, unconsciously and always thinking of them do well affect them at work or girlfriend who must choose which we think is good for them! God save us from this!
start, then the little things ... to show our children our considerations, make them understand that just as we are concerned with their goodness, their health, we may also make a useful exercise.
feel and hear what they think, understand their motivations (a key driver for the constancy in an activity and to accept the sacrifices that the commitment entails), and the rest build on this.
clarified this aspect that I consider fundamental, I can now go into topic SPORT.
Sport is an important moment in the mental and physical development of children.
I like it and consider it a moment, a look and not just a commitment or activity.
It is an experience that through the movement of the body helps the individual to grow and mature, both physically (as a result provides some specific powers in relation to the specific sport and develop their physical talents), both educational point of view, as it becomes a carrier, if well lived and well-transmitted sound values, such as community living, competition, teamwork, confidence in themselves, the value of sacrifice and effort, recognition and when possible exceeded their limits.
These are just some examples of 'virtues' that sport can help to demonstrate in person.
course, each promotes sport in a different way: surely a sport such as karate develops talent and expertise compared to basketball or any team.
The question is then, which sport is more appropriate for his son, along with himself and with the professionals who help in making informed choices and targeted so as to give the sport its proper size.
There are children who already have clear ideas on sport and who want to do in that case, once checked the physical fitness, why not follow?
In most cases, if the choice is theirs, will also be able to assume the responsibilities and sacrifices that will accrue.
There are children who do not even dream of in their worst nightmares of sports, perhaps because they feel awkward, or are 'chubby' and are actually others who choose for them. do with them?
Help them understand what sport and why does it well. Starting from your example: of course if we force our children to become more athletic and then the sport that we ourselves are doing is zapping the remote control. ... well, something in their eyes just do not come back!
help you find the sport for them, that is what helps them at that time in a good and balanced development of their person.
There are sports that even at that time can like a lot, but are not appropriate.
For example, if a child wants to run and suffers from obesity, maybe better to opt for a more individual sport, but that gives that damage to the knee. Or a child who loves swimming, but has an allergy to chlorine such as to cause rashes strong after diving ...
The important thing is to try to reconcile, on the one hand their good and the other their pleasure, because sports is however also a 'game' must be a positive experience, enriching and may not ever be if it is imposed by 'High as a decision of the supreme court family!
But I am in doubt because with all the commitments it has already during the year in this way, I'd go to him to add another.
I want to give me some advice.
Dear lady, rather than advice, as long as you are leaving, I think it appropriate to order.
First it would be appropriate to change the subject of the sentence: Not I would, I am in doubt, I'd add him .... But my son wants to do sports?
My Son about the reasons, my son is willing to add another commitment to their daily tasks?
We parents, sometimes, thinking that our children are small and that, to a certain age, or almost totally dependent on us, we forget that possess a head and thinking that the interlocutors are also very intelligent! We assume that we have to decide everything and always respect their good, because we are adults and know what is best for them.
And if on the one hand, this is true, on the other we must never commit the mistake of treating our children as puppets of our projects. As parents, we do not even notice of it, so we are motivated by our desire to do something good for them.
Unfortunately, as' doing away their biggest asset: the possibility of starting to grow, with our help, and not left to themselves, to make their first decisions, in a sense independent.
If not we dialogue with them on these 'small' but great things of everyday life, as we expect that we will be able to do so at the most important and profound issues of life? Who knows maybe
large, unconsciously and always thinking of them do well affect them at work or girlfriend who must choose which we think is good for them! God save us from this!
start, then the little things ... to show our children our considerations, make them understand that just as we are concerned with their goodness, their health, we may also make a useful exercise.
feel and hear what they think, understand their motivations (a key driver for the constancy in an activity and to accept the sacrifices that the commitment entails), and the rest build on this.
clarified this aspect that I consider fundamental, I can now go into topic SPORT.
Sport is an important moment in the mental and physical development of children.
I like it and consider it a moment, a look and not just a commitment or activity.
It is an experience that through the movement of the body helps the individual to grow and mature, both physically (as a result provides some specific powers in relation to the specific sport and develop their physical talents), both educational point of view, as it becomes a carrier, if well lived and well-transmitted sound values, such as community living, competition, teamwork, confidence in themselves, the value of sacrifice and effort, recognition and when possible exceeded their limits.
These are just some examples of 'virtues' that sport can help to demonstrate in person.
course, each promotes sport in a different way: surely a sport such as karate develops talent and expertise compared to basketball or any team.
The question is then, which sport is more appropriate for his son, along with himself and with the professionals who help in making informed choices and targeted so as to give the sport its proper size.
There are children who already have clear ideas on sport and who want to do in that case, once checked the physical fitness, why not follow?
In most cases, if the choice is theirs, will also be able to assume the responsibilities and sacrifices that will accrue.
There are children who do not even dream of in their worst nightmares of sports, perhaps because they feel awkward, or are 'chubby' and are actually others who choose for them. do with them?
Help them understand what sport and why does it well. Starting from your example: of course if we force our children to become more athletic and then the sport that we ourselves are doing is zapping the remote control. ... well, something in their eyes just do not come back!
help you find the sport for them, that is what helps them at that time in a good and balanced development of their person.
There are sports that even at that time can like a lot, but are not appropriate.
For example, if a child wants to run and suffers from obesity, maybe better to opt for a more individual sport, but that gives that damage to the knee. Or a child who loves swimming, but has an allergy to chlorine such as to cause rashes strong after diving ...
The important thing is to try to reconcile, on the one hand their good and the other their pleasure, because sports is however also a 'game' must be a positive experience, enriching and may not ever be if it is imposed by 'High as a decision of the supreme court family!
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